Terrible? No. Talented, Yes.
Posted on 2008 under Domestic Issues, My Ozzy, Parenting, Uncategorized |17 Jun
I read in Milet’s blog that she prefers calling the stage “Talented Two” for terrible just sounds wrong. I agree if we keep on calling our child terrible or bad he will grow up living up to THAT name. So let’s not start them off with the wrong notion.
When my 23 month old son acts up, I always reprimand him with a calm but firm voice. When this fails I resort to glaring and high-pitched shrills. When THIS fails, I let him be. He would lie on the floor crying his lungs out calling out my name. Then after he’d realize I won’t pick him up then he’d come crawling to me.
These things worries me though; can I still call him ‘talented’ when he’s being ‘terrible’?
- shouting at the top of his lungs when we do not give him his wants
- he does a ‘nestea plunge’ (thanks Van for the term) even though he does it while in bed I feel as if it hurts still.
- He hits. Yes, hits as in SLAP. He would hit me when he is frustrated or scolded. Even though his dad is the one scolding him, he would go to me and hit me instead.
- If hitting is not enough he would bite. (see picture)
- He would cry loudly and say “mommy yayay” so we would sympathize with him (aba, at actor na?)
- Lie on the floor. Flapping his arms and sometimes banging his head on the floor.
- Throw things. Anything that he can grab he will throw.
Familiar scenario? I bet. Even the most well-behaved kids throw a tantrum or two. What is a parent to do? Honestly, when Ozzy was beginning with this I felt scared. I didn’t what to do. I didn’t want to make mistakes or scold him to early, or spank him. I was scared I’d damage him.
Dear reader’s what do you do to reprimand a 2-year old?
by eDs , on June 17 2008 @ 5:06 pm
hi sis! naging concern kurin yan with aj… remember my post about ” aj terrible @2?” … but somehow I realized na ganun lang tlga sila and we just have to be patient and this is the stage where a child goes from being a baby to being a real little person — a person with thoughts, opinions, and a will of her own. They become frustrated when their wills doesn’t materials kaya cila may tantrums… but in a way as you said they are talented and terrific as well, because-
1.) They’re learning to love
2.) They love to express themselves
3.) They actually want to help
4.) They live to learn
5.) They’re becoming individuals
And what you do sis is a good example of a healthy discipline.
Andami ko atang sinabi noh? Ngresearch kasi ako ng konti about it hehehe
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by eDs , on June 17 2008 @ 5:07 pm
dahil naging worried din ako sa behavior ni Aj
sana nkatulong me
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by admin , on June 17 2008 @ 5:13 pm
hahahaha thanks sa info eds, oo ur ryt, they are learning to explore & be independent nga kaya when we don’t understand them nagkaka tantrums!!! grabe. but thanks sa info. hehehehe
hehehe i jus pray for MORE patience in my part.
by milet , on June 17 2008 @ 5:36 pm
i’ve seen a similar entry on mhay’s blog. yesterday or today yata nya sinulat. it seems a lot of us are on that stage where we can only complain. lol!
but regarding dun sa slapping and biting. i remember there was this girl from anevay’s class sa tumbletots na nang aaway ng classmate. the mother was worried kasi nakakarinig na sya ng negative remarks from mothers of the same class. ang advise nung teacher let her mingle more sa kids of the same age. kasi daw baka naspoiled ung bata sa bahay. and then kung babawalan, eye to eye contact gawin.
nway, have you downloaded na ung baby einstein. tapos na ung sa kin eh. sa opinion ko lang ha, its not worth the 1300.
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by admin , on June 17 2008 @ 7:17 pm
will check on mhay’s blog later
hehehe yeah they are in THIS stage na, as parent’s we have to be extra patient with our kids because most of the time they have tantrums bec we don’t understand what they want.
you are right; Ozzy is lacking in the “mingling” with kids area…
re baby einstein..have downloaded them & they are fine with me bec free buti i ddnt buy the DVD. ahahaha
by raft3r , on June 17 2008 @ 8:29 pm
ewan ko lang, ha
yun nanay ko never akong sinabihan ng mga masasamang salita
and yet, ganito pa rin ang kinahinatnan ko
nyahaha
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by Mhay , on June 18 2008 @ 8:46 am
Naku same sentiments pala tayo hehehe…kasi halos magkakasing age babies natin noh? Same with Eds nag researched talaga ako on how to deal with 2 year olds buti na lng kasi now I understand my daughter more. Ginagawa ko na lng mas namamagnify ko yung terrific things that she does rather than the “terrible”